10 Things I've Learned From Brown People (As a Black Person)

I thought that this would a fun little thing to do. A lot of these things I've now integrated into my own life (especially regarding hospitality). Goes to show that you can learn some things when you interact with other communities.

1. If you are going to a brown person's house, come hungry and thirsty

In my community, if you go to visit a person's house, they might offer you candy (if you're a kid) or water (if it's hot outside). But they aren't about to feed you (lol). But what I found is that when I go to my brown friends' houses, I am almost always offered food or cha. Not chips. Not candy. Not a Dr. Pepper. But real actually food and brewed tea. And if you turn it down, some get offended (at least in my experience). So I always come hungry and thirsty

2. Do NOT get more food than you're going to eat.

Growing up, I was never really pressured into finishing all of my food. If food got thrown away, you might get lectured but still it was like "eh". I learned the hard way that you don't do that in a brown house and never repeated the same mistake again.

3. Take off your shoes when entering the house

Again, never had to do this growing up. It's only when I started hanging with brown people that I started looking at my shoes, considering whether or not they can easily slip on and off. I've gotten so use to having my shoes off, that I don't mind walking barefoot places.

4. If you are staying in a brown person's house, plan on staying there for a good minute

I find that in the black community, unless if it's a party, a funeral, or someone is visiting from outside of town, we don't stay for long periods of time at each others house. With brown people though, man I'll get there at 11 am and don't leave till 11 pm. Actually, it's more like get there at 3 pm and leave at 11 pm. Some won't even let me leave if it's that late. Then when we finally start walking toward the door, we usually end up somewhere between the door and the car and continue talking. Speaking of talking...

5. Be careful what you say

The Sikh community is small (unlike the black community). If you talk about someone, just know that the person you're talking to probably knows that person or is related to them somehow. It doesn't matter if the person you're talking about is from Canada or the UK. And don't say anything that you wouldn't put out there. Sikhs like to gossip and talk behind each others backs. Just keeping it real.

6. Do not get mixed up in brown people politics

Just don't. If you ain't brown, it ain't none of your business.

7. Say hello to guests as they walk in

See, in the black community, you can sort of get away with hiding in your room when guests come over. Just say that you have a headache or that you're in the bathroom. It also depends sometimes on which parent is there. But whenever I'm at a brown person's house, whether I'm staying or not, I got to get up and greet everyone who comes in the door. Is that the respectful thing to do? Hell yeah. Do I always want to do it? Hell no.

8. If you treat the older people with love and respect, the language barrier won't matter

I find that brown grandparents and black grandparents are very much similar. They usually love on you by feeding you and making sure that you're warm. Black grandparents (in the South) me "sugar", "sweetheart", "love", and "sweet thang". Brown grandparents call me "bheta". And even if they don't speak English, as long as I show love, they'll show love back.

9. Just assume they're vegetarian and go with that

If you are a black person from the South, most likely barbecue, chicken, or seafood is served at your house. Not all, but most.  This is not the case with some brown people, so don't go around talking about how you and your friends went to Texas Roadhouse last weekend. Now only does that trigger people, but it will spark an unnecessary debate that will just leave everyone lookin at each other funny.

10. Eating on the floor is the best

Growing up, we either ate at the table or on the couch. Same with the brown families I know. The difference is that sometimes we will eat on the floor. I don't know what it is about eating on the floor but it feels more "homey". Maybe because you usually sit in a circle. I don't know but I like it.

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