Wednesday, June 27, 2018

Enough is Enough

I originally was not going to do a blog post this month. But after getting some of my mojo back, I said to myself, "Might as well update the blog". So here I am lol.

Before I get into this, some of ya'll might want an update about how the fam and I are doing since I came home this summer. I'm here to inform you that that will be a blog post for another day (most likely toward the start of the fall semester in August). So stay tuned for that.

So, there's a lot of things I want to cover in my blog, a lot I have to say. But in order to keep this somewhat organized, I will just focus on one topic. It has been a year and a half since I first started learning about Sikhi and became a Sikh. It has been an interesting journey so far and I have met a variety of Sikhs from all kinds of different backgrounds. Sometimes, I've had wonderful experiences being a Sikh; sometimes, not so much. But no matter how hard it has gotten, I have never regretted the choice I made to join this community. There's something though that I've been needing to get off my chest (actually several things but I'll save those for another day). There are some "bad" patterns that I see in the Sikh community that I saw growing up in the evangelical Christian community. For example, I see a lot of Sikhs just in taking information from preachers, teachers, etc. without ever questioning their validity or the validity of what they're saying. As someone who was at one point an agnostic*, I learned how to have critical thinking skills and how to differentiate the truth from what is false. This, in turn, turned me into a questioning person. For example, if someone claims that XYZ is a sin, I'm not just going to sit there and shake my head like a little kid (no matter how much religious authority that person might have). I'm going to ask questions. "Who said it was a sin? What is your source? How authentic is this source? etc." If they can not answer those questions or become hostile, then I'm going to become highly suspicious. I find this happens a lot with sakhis. A person will post or tell me a sakhi and I will ask them where it comes from. I find that most people do not know and are just parroting what another person has told them. This does NOT mean the sakhi isn't true. It just means that I don't have a reason yet to believe it actually occurred.

Anyways, for the entirety of my spiritual journey, I've been told by others what to believe. Since this was an entirely new faith to me, I needed guidance where ever I could get it. Sometimes that guidance conflicted with someone else's guidance, but none the least, I accepted it.* Now I think that enough is enough. I think it's time for me to stand on my own two feet, do my own research,  and have my own opinions on things. Heck, I already have some (but a few are too controversial to put out there and I don't like drama). I encourage others in the Sangat to not be spoon fed ideas*, but instead go out there and learn for yourself.  It is important to challenge your own beliefs to figure out what is true and what is not true.

Forgive me for my mistakes and if I triggered anyone.....get over it lol. But seriously, this is not targeted at a particular person or persons. I use this blog to write down my thoughts as they come and go. And this obviously doesn't apply to everyone. I hope that everyone is enjoying their summer and that ya'll are staying cool and hydrated.

GurFateh Ji,
Jasmine aka Gurpreet Kaur

*Just because someone has never been agnostic, atheist, etc., does not mean they do not have critical thinking skills

*For example, Simran. I have been told how to do Simran probably 10 different ways. And they tend to follow it up with, "This is the only correct way to do it. Everyone else is wrong." First of all, the goal of Simran is to remember God and dispel ego. Last time I checked, I don't think God cares about how you do it. As long as you're doing it with loving devotion, your work is being accepted. Second of all, if you keep doing the same thing, you're going to keep getting the same results. If one method of Simran does not work for you, do not keep forcing yourself to do it. Do what connects you to Waheguru

*There's a difference between being spoon fed information and learning the basics of a religion. Of course you need someone to help you set the foundation. But once you have the necessary tools and training, I wouldn't depend on others to build your own house.

Update (7/21/2018): *Claps for self*