Sunday, September 1, 2019

Girls, Girls, Girls



From woman, man is born; within woman, man is conceived; to woman he is engaged and married.


Woman becomes his friend; through woman, the future generations come.
When his woman dies, he seeks another woman; to woman he is bound.
So why call her bad? From her, kings are born.
From woman, woman is born; without woman, there would be no one at all.

O Nanak, only the True Lord is without a woman.

That mouth which praises the Lord continually is blessed and beautiful.
O Nanak, those faces shall be radiant in the Court of the True Lord. ||2||

So, I’ve gotten several phone calls and texts over the last two week from Kaurs I know wanting to talk to me about  disrespect from Singhs within our Panth. That on top of the things I’ve been seeing on social media have driven me to write this post. 
Ya know one of the things that brought me to Sikhi is the concept of equality  for all, no caste, color, gender, nationality etc. Everyone and everything is Ek but I’m starting to get the impression that we don’t practice what we preach or advertise to everyone else.  How do we preach equality and respect for everyone if we don’t even practice it from within our own Sangat?
The above Shabad speaks to the importance that Guru Nanak place on women in the Panth and the absolute respect that should be shown to them.   Some of the things I have read on social media and been told to me by Kaurs I know gives me cause for alarm. The Akahl Takht recently asked that Singhs in India protect the women from Kashmir as it was believed that these women weren’t safe traveling through India in the current climate.  It’s a sad cultural statement when women can’t travel freely without fear but it’s admirable that the Sikhs recognize it. Trust me when I say I know it’s epidemic around the world and in all cultures but our Guru orders us to be and do better! What disturbs me even more is that we have these same issues within our own Sangats and homes.
We have initiatives within the western Sikh communities that demand our governments give equal rights and treatment for all people including women but it appears we haven’t done our own house cleaning in a lot of ways.  These initiatives that spend so much time demanding no hate and equality for all from external organizations and governments need to assist our community with the same issues.
I agree that we should protect the women in our lives, I believe in some old fashioned way that it is our duty to do so.  I also believe that we should be empowering the women in our lives to be strong and independent. We should be encouraging them to take a much larger role in Sangat, in the Gurdwara and in the world. 

Thursday, August 22, 2019

Am I Growing Up?!





Okay, so I'm sitting here while writing this and trying to process my thoughts. So bare with me if the flow isn't smooth, but here goes nothing.

I am 20 and will be 21 in October. Sometimes, I think people forget that. Sometimes I think I forget that. But you know what? That's okay. Because, well,...

I'm happy. I am finally able to get rid of my old driver's license with that picture that looks nothing like me now (lol). And while most people my age are excited about being able to legally drink, I'm getting finally send in my application for my concealed carry license and make my first firearm purchase.

But also

I'm stressed. I am a junior in college, and I'm stressed about needing to land an internship. With my lack of real job experience and an "eh" GPA, having success in that arena will be tough. Sometimes I think impossible. I wish that employers understood that my resume DOES NOT reflect my talents or accomplishments accurately. Worse comes to worst, I'll just have to camp out under a bridge somewhere in Austin (lol).

But also

I'm restless. I'm ready to travel to the world. I've been ready to travel the world. The only thing that is holding me back isn't necessarily money, but my parent's (mostly my mother's) suspicious of the outside world. What I don't think she realizes is that I'm just as unsafe here in the United States (where we are having mass shootings every other week) as in India. Heck, at this point I think northern India might be 5% safer than here. One thing I will say though is that unless it is the US or Canada, I'm never moving out of the country. All I want is a simple home, a decent Sikh husband, animals, and at least two kids. You hear that Waheguru ji?! That really ain't too much to ask.

But also

I'm passionate. I know this has to be apart of my life purpose because I never in my entire life put so much effort into one thing for a long period of time. Whether it's this website, the Youtube channel, or the Facebook page, I don't need the motivation to maintain it, and I feel satisfaction by putting my heart, soul, and mind into it. And I firmly believe it is going to be something big, something impactful. I just got to be patient and let it grow.

But also

I'm regretful. There are some things I've done (or said) that I could have done better over these last two years. And there are some things that I shouldn't have done at all. Whether it is in regards to my academics, my social life, the Sikh community, my finances, etc. there are some places where I screwed up. But then again, screwing up is apart of life. All I can do is learn from the experience, move on, and hope the situation resolves itself.

But also

I'm thankful. Thankful to those who have helped me along this journey of mine for the last two years. Some have come and gone. Some have come and gone then come again. And some have been with me throughout the whole time period. If it hadn't been for these people, not only would I not be a Sikh today, I probably would have done moved back to Fort Worth by now. So with both hands folded, I say "Dhanvaad ji".